Where Does Self Esteem Come From?

We all want an abundance of self esteem.without anyone lacking what they need)
And why not? Self esteem equates to confidence,If we cannot affirm these statements whole heartedly,
being attractive (without having to fake it), and being awithout qualification or condition, then our connection
magnet for success, wealth, popularity, and a wholeisn't complete and fully functional. Which explains why
host of other goodies. The Law Of Attraction requiresso many of us are trying out so many different kinds
a genuine core of self esteem before it swings intoof strategies designed to make connection: with love
action, bringing whatever we desire to us without ourpartners, soul mates, family ties, children, pets, food,
having to lift a finger. We don't have to earn whatproducts of every kind designed to fool everyone that
comes to us when we have lots of self esteem. Itwe are worth more, when deep down we know we
comes to us as a cosmic gift.are not.
But if we don't already have that core, can weAnd that's just on the human level. How about all the
generate it by positive thinking? Not really! Positivespiritual and religious pathways to connect with a divine
thinking flows from self esteem, not the other waysource of plenty? Who doesn't have one or more
around. And it doesn't come from carefully tending ourpractice that's geared toward appeasing, enticing, or
mental garden plot either, any more than weeding,demanding that the cosmos supply us with more of
fertilizing and watering makes our favorite plants grow.what we want?
We can weed out all our negative thinking and still notThink about it? How many of the above mentioned
see the flowers grow.things are you doing every day? Or perhaps only on
Why not? Because the seed has to have alreadySabbath--and hoping that Divine Grace stays with you
been planted. And that's the part most of the RA RAthrough the following Saturday night.
programs out there don't understand, therefore fail toNo wonder there are so many pathways back to
produce the desired result.Oneness with the ultimate source of everything. Only
So where does the seed of self esteem come from?problem with that scenario is that once having made
Connection. We all experienced connection before wethat one-way trip down the birth canal, it is mighty
were born. We didn't know what it was, but it fed us,difficult to climb back into the womb!
removed waste products, and nurtured us from singleMany of the unhealthy behaviors we see in ourselves
cell to viable fetus. After our umbilical connection wasand others around us are attempts to derive what we
severed, we continued to have emotional and mentalneed from objects, companions, family, and close
connection to our human providers for at least arelationships. That's like trying to get enough water
couple of years. That's how mommy knew what tosecond hand from them, rather than finding a spigot
do when we couldn't say an intelligible word.that supplies clean water for ourselves.
So an even better analogy than tending seeds wouldWhat we need instead is a viable method of making
be a hose connection. Self esteem is the naturalconnection with unlimited supply at a spiritual level. A
experience of having connection to unlimited sourcescosmic hose bib, as it were. We need to realize that
for whatever we need, whether it be emotionalmany of the avenues available to us, whether codified
support (aka unconditional love), mental guidance, andreligious systems or new age spirituality, extract a high
spiritual abundance. Shaking the hose may be greatprice and deliver often contaminated supply.
fun--and even produce a few sprays of water onAnd we need connection to ourselves, as well. Few of
occasion--but the hose bib has to be connected andus can say we know our innermost hearts--who we
turned on before there is much volume.are as individualized spiritual beings as well as unique
What happened to most of us is that we never had ahuman beings. One of the main distractions for
quality of connection that was sustainable. Or it didn'tknowing ourselves are the people--real or
provide enough healthy nutrients for our seeds oftelevised--attempting to tell us to be someone else.
esteem to take root and grow strong and healthy onLook different. Do something different. Live our lives in
their own.generic ways suitable to the purposes of someone
How can we tell if we have viable connection? Takeelse.
this simple YES TEST. Can you say yes to threeIt's only when we have viable connection internally and
simple statements?to the creative power of the universe that we have
* I have enough! (without taking anything from anyoneenough flowing to us. Only then do we have that
else)sense of being filled up that we commonly call self
* I am enough! (on my own, without connecting toesteem. When we are full, we cannot not be valuable.
anyone else)Who can say we aren't valuable when universal
* The universe is enough! (everyone has enoughsources demonstrate that we are?