| The latest buzz is all about the movie, The Secret. | | | | work, my business, or how I am in relationship.. what's |
| Many folks say it's HUGE. In case you're unaware, the | | | | really at cause when it comes to a dearth of clients, or |
| movie's general theme is about creating what you | | | | clients I would like to have, or a painful breakup of a |
| want by accessing the Universal Law of Attraction, | | | | relationship, or... The pain and suffering are teachers |
| that is, attracting what you put your attention on. If you | | | | pointing to what we need to learn about "me" - about |
| focus your attention on positive things, well, positive | | | | who I am and how I am in life. The pain forces one to |
| things result. Ditto the negative. But what intrigues me is | | | | grow, to mature emotionally and spiritually, to face |
| the movie's seeming use of spirituality as a tool to | | | | fears and frustrations...the pain is a call to action, a call |
| manifest "stuff" and a naivety with which the narrators | | | | to learn, an opportunity to grow...and since many folks |
| disregard the inner workings of the psyche which can | | | | refuse to be self-responsible for working on their own |
| sabotage the positive thinking approach to "having it all." | | | | "stuff", well, now we have the latest quick-fix, The |
| The Secret is the Napoleon Hill, "Think and Grow Rich" | | | | Secret, that says, "OH, no biggie, just think positive and |
| of 2006-7. I've seen the Secret and view it as a prime | | | | all will be well." Hmmm. |
| example of "spiritual materialism" which is behavior that | | | | Just be positive...hmmm...my take is there are many, |
| is purely ego-driven. Some thoughts: | | | | many silently angry, fearful, frustrated folks out |
| When there is a conflict between a positive thought | | | | there...folks who have 20, 30, 40, 50 years of anger, |
| and a negative emotion, the emotion will always win. | | | | fear, frustration, etc. inhabiting their cells and have |
| So, when one decides to "think positive" but is doing so | | | | never dealt with their emotional awareness or maturity. |
| because, emotionally, they are frustrated, angry, | | | | These are some of the 98% of the folks who will find |
| envious, jealous, or fearful, etc., there's a pretty good | | | | it challenging, well-neigh impossible, to sustain positive |
| chance the thought will not manifest - which is one | | | | attitudes, positive outlooks, positive reactions to the |
| reason why many folks' attempts at living the Secret | | | | vicissitudes of life...on whom the secret of The Secret |
| ("positive thinking", visualizing positive manifesting, and | | | | will be lost. "Waddya mean, I thought positive six times |
| prayer, for that matter) end up in not "getting what I | | | | yesterday and nothing happened!?" Six times in the |
| want." Too, when the effort, and for many it is | | | | midst of a day replete with negative judgments of |
| efforting (which goes against the Yin and Yang of | | | | others, bullying, gossiping, being sarcastic, angry, |
| Universal flow) comes from one's ego, there's a good | | | | mean-spirited and disrespectful, not trusting anything or |
| chance that one will not get what one wants or one | | | | anyone, lying, cheating. |
| will get what one doesn't want (i.e., the Soul's response | | | | For the 2% who really, really get it, the Secret is no |
| to the ego's demand). Trust is sorely lacking here. | | | | secret - living life from the inside out, trusting without |
| Too, in our Western culture, we are basically averse to | | | | needing to control, experiencing life's pain as a teacher, |
| pain on every level. This week I saw an interview with | | | | surrendering their ego, seeing that life is larger than |
| Jennifer Hudson, the young singer who was voted off | | | | getting that parking space or Starbucks...that's it's not |
| of American Idol and stole the show in the movie, | | | | about spiritual materialism. |
| Dreamgirls. Jennifer was asked how she responded to | | | | The Tibetan teacher, Chogyam Trungpa, suggests we |
| being eliminated from Idol when most people thought | | | | be conscious about getting caught up in the lure of |
| she would win. She admitted that it was painful and | | | | spiritual materialism. When our ego is driving our spiritual |
| that she cried a lot, but that eventually she returned to | | | | development, we're headed in the wrong direction - |
| her faith. "I chose to trust that God had a bigger plan | | | | accumulation of stuff and avoiding our emotions, not |
| for me than I could see at the time," she explained. | | | | spiritual maturation. |
| Trust...surrender...allow...probably not a lot of | | | | Personal growth and spiritual awareness and |
| hand-wringing, mental gymnastics, "mind control", | | | | maturation are not about ignoring our feelings of |
| positive thinking (better go see the Secret!!!).....just | | | | deficiency, not about filling the holes of emptiness, the |
| allowing and trust. | | | | void of lack, going around the feelings we experience |
| The Secret, in my mind, is supposed to be the antidote | | | | inside. The question is, "Am I a spiritual seeker and |
| to experiencing life's disappointments, or, for that | | | | practitioner so I can evolve emotionally, consciously |
| matter, eliminating life's disappointments. For me, | | | | and spiritually by exploring my emotions as a doorway |
| Jennifer's story is a powerful reminder of how life's | | | | to spiritual growth, or am I using spirituality from an |
| disappointments may in fact be preparation for | | | | egoic place to move away from, to deny, and avoid |
| something even more significant in our lives. And, this | | | | my fear, my anger, my frustration, etc., in an attempt to |
| belief has the best chance of coming true when one | | | | "quick-fix" myself through material gain?" |
| makes a demonstrated (read "conscious") | | | | When a pickpocket meets a Holy man, all he sees is |
| commitment to learn and grow from one's present | | | | the pockets. IMHO, The Secret, for many (over and |
| day circumstances NOT by evading, avoiding, denying | | | | above the 2%), is all about the pockets. |
| and "thinking" one's way away from them. | | | | (c) 2007, Peter G. Vajda, Ph.D. All rights in all media |
| So, for example, what am I learning about me, my | | | | reserved. |