| If you were told that there are millions of stars in the | | | | and never have families. It is all about choices. |
| sky, you would probably accept this without question. | | | | I understand about making choices but what do |
| But if you are told the paint is still wet, you would | | | | expectations have to do with happy experiences in |
| probably have to touch it in order to believe it is true. | | | | my life? |
| Why is that? You might be able to accredit this to | | | | They say necessity is the mother of invention. If you |
| 'human nature.' What is human nature? Human nature | | | | think about it you will realize that if there were no need |
| is the basic range of behaviors and qualities that every | | | | for something there would have been no reason to |
| human has in common. | | | | invent it. In the same way, expectations are the mother |
| What are some of the shared behaviors and qualities | | | | or the birth of life experiences. What you expect plays |
| that humans share? | | | | a huge role in what you will experience. Expectation is |
| Everyone needs to believe in something and indeed | | | | another way of saying belief or hope. Without hope |
| do. What they believe in depends on their environment, | | | | there will be nothing to look forward to or expect to |
| upbringing, education and basic desires of their heart. | | | | happen. There will be no desire or prospect of |
| Some people are predisposed to being the 'glass is | | | | anything happening in your life. Without belief there can |
| have full', optimist, positive kind of person while others | | | | be no faith, no conviction and no ideas of things to |
| naturally lean to the skeptical, 'glass is have empty', | | | | come. Without expectation there is merely distrust, |
| pessimist kind of outlook on life and all that it offers. | | | | suspicion, disbelief and doubt. To have a great |
| Some people are predisposed to being the | | | | experience in life you must believe it is possible. You |
| care-takers of the world, the eternal parents, the | | | | must have the desire for a happy, positive experience. |
| problem solvers and the arbitrators. Others are the | | | | If nothing ever happened in your life what would be |
| problem makers, the rebels at heart, they are the | | | | left? Expectations are like a gift. If you never take the |
| discontents. Some people are 'people pleasers', the | | | | gift, will you be able to enjoy it or learn from it? |
| followers and need to be around others all the time | | | | I do expect good things to happen in my life but I rarely |
| while other people are the loners, the independent | | | | have them! |
| thinkers, and the leaders. Some people were born to | | | | It is human nature to survive and to experience life. |
| follow their own path while others were born to be | | | | Proverbs 23, verse number seven in the bible can |
| lead down a path. Some people are highly intuitive and | | | | explain this for you. It says, "As a man thinketh in his |
| very spiritual in thought and action while others are | | | | heart, so is he." Life experiences can be pleasant |
| strictly creatures of comfort, enjoying the finer material | | | | learning experiences or they can be traumatic and |
| things in life. Even though all humans do share qualities | | | | damaging. Your heart or the impressions of your soul, |
| and behaviors each human is beautifully, uniquely and | | | | hold the key to your life experiences. How you |
| wonderfully made. | | | | experience life depends on what you believe about |
| What makes me unique and different from everyone | | | | your life. If you continually experience unhappy life |
| else? | | | | experiences, it is because in your heart of hearts you |
| Every person is made up of three major components; | | | | are 'expecting unhappy experiences'. Not all life |
| mind, body and soul. All three of these make up an | | | | experiences are memorable. An experience can just |
| individual and how the individual expresses these | | | | be waking up, having breakfast and lying on the couch |
| components gives them their uniqueness. Inside each | | | | to watch TV. But those experiences that make an |
| of us is the desire and the need to survive. Each of us | | | | impact that we have to 'go through' are the ones that |
| has the 'will to live' that is part of our deepest desires. | | | | make an impression on our soul. These build our belief |
| How we choose to express this need is our choice. | | | | system about 'who we are' and determine what we |
| Some people concentrate on developing their mind | | | | expect from life. It all begins with the way you think. |
| and become professors, scientists, engineers, teachers, | | | | Not every day thoughts like I need to brush my teeth |
| inventors, writers, etc. Others concentrate on | | | | now, but thoughts that carry conviction and passion. |
| developing their body and become body builders, | | | | How do I change my experiences to happy ones? |
| gymnasts, athletes, aerobics instructors, and health | | | | Check your thinking. Listen to what comes out of your |
| experts. Some people concentrate on the soul and | | | | mouth. What you hold in your heart, your belief system |
| become those who take care of others like doctors | | | | will eventually come spilling out of your mouth when |
| and nurses and nannies while some become spiritual | | | | you least expect it. Spend some quiet time each day |
| leaders. Many people are able to master the | | | | imagining the happy experiences you want in your life. |
| combination of all three components or perhaps two | | | | Do this consistently each day. Begin your quiet time by |
| of them and do well in teaching others how to | | | | thinking of all the things in your life that you are grateful |
| become well-rounded individuals. Everyone who has | | | | for. If your list is really short in the beginning, that is |
| life has spiritual gifts and abilities that they can express | | | | okay because over time it will grow. Being grateful to |
| that will give them their uniqueness. For instance, most | | | | be alive is a place to start. This is called, 'an attitude of |
| people have the inner ability to be nurturing and raise | | | | gratitude' and it works wonders for creating happy |
| children in a loving and caring environment. Some | | | | experiences. Being happy can be as simple as |
| individuals do not choose to express this innate ability | | | | expecting to be happy. Give it a try. |