| Losing a loved one is a heart wrenching experienceto | | | | appreciatemore what you had (and will have again); it |
| say the least. | | | | allowsyou to experience first-hand the cyclical nature |
| Although finding the strength to move on with one'slife | | | | of life;and in some cases, it may even allow you to |
| after such an experience takes time, it can bedone. | | | | balancethe scales of karma for the loss others |
| Gratitude is wonderful for helping to overcomegrief. Be | | | | experienceddue to your actions in the past. But don't |
| grateful for the love you had, theexperiences you | | | | feel guiltyover the possibility of past life negative |
| shared, what you currently havein your life, and what | | | | actions aslong as you are "doing the right thing" in |
| will be in the future. | | | | allsituations during this life. |
| The closer the connection, the more difficult | | | | For those who lost a love that may have seemed like |
| theseparation, but it helps to realize that everyone | | | | "the one," even though you never had the chance |
| hasmore than one soul mate. Some are more | | | | tocome together, this type of love loss can also |
| compatiblethan others, but all are meant to enter and | | | | beupsetting, especially if there is a strong past |
| leave yourlife when they do, meaning all relationships | | | | lifeconnection. Perhaps you met and spent time |
| appear tobe spiritually contracted, including the length | | | | togetherat work or on vacation. Although the |
| of timeto be spent together. Expectations of "growing | | | | connection hasrun its course, you still think about the |
| old"with a partner are the norm in our society, but | | | | person a lot. |
| inmany cases it's not meant to be. | | | | However, if you had spent more time together, |
| As we wrote in our book Your Love Life and | | | | youmay have realized that the person only |
| Reincarnation, published in 2002, almost allrelationships | | | | representedwhat you wanted or felt you needed in |
| include karmic ties. In other words,one person owes | | | | your love life. |
| the other, they both owe each otherand their | | | | "What could have been" may have been more of |
| connection is necessary for growth andpayback, or a | | | | afantasy. The time spent together was all that |
| similar situation exists. Perhaps there isunfinished | | | | wasmeant to be, for now, maybe, in part, to |
| business or the two souls agreed, beforeincarnating, to | | | | furtherestablish a link to be continued on a much |
| reunite in order to learn some lessons oraccomplish a | | | | deeperlevel the next time around. Remember, the |
| certain goal. | | | | spiritualreasons for the events in your life may seem |
| For someone grieving from the loss of a loved one, | | | | illogical,and the fated outcome is often at odds with |
| wewould like to suggest a new outlook. In our Nov. | | | | plans,expectations, and hopes. |
| 10th, | | | | For those who lost a very compatible and |
| 2006 column titled Redefining How You Perceive New | | | | rewardingrelationship, past life regression is a great tool |
| Love Interests, we recommend viewing love | | | | toreturn to a lifetime where you were also together ina |
| interestsas opportunities for growth and allowing them | | | | loving relationship, and even to a future lifetime |
| to bewhat they're meant to be, rather than all or | | | | (through future progression) when you'll have |
| nothing, orassuming they'll be "the one" for life. Such an | | | | theopportunity to love each other again. It will also |
| outlookeases the difficulty of accepting what is and | | | | helpto calm your mind and heart to realize this lifetime |
| what is tobe, that which you can't change. | | | | isjust a part of a long tapestry of love. |
| Loss can be devastating, but at least with | | | | For those who had to leave a relationship due |
| thisperspective, it can be easier to digest when it | | | | todangerous circumstances, such as abuse, |
| doesn'twork out as it "should have." Although that | | | | alcoholismor drugs, but still cannot seem to let go of |
| seems todeflate romantic notions of "forever," know | | | | the person,cut the spiritual ties that bind. Consciously |
| that lovereally is forever on a spiritual level, not on this | | | | and visuallysurround yourself with White Light, cut any |
| physicalplane. It's helpful to view soul progression in | | | | cordsconnecting you and the other person, and fill the |
| lifetimes,not just one existence, as each soul has an | | | | emptyplaces where the cords were with White Light. |
| agenda thatstretches throughout time. | | | | Dothis daily until you feel the effects and ask for |
| That brings us to the popular phrase, "love of yourlife." | | | | spiritualhelp in the process, from whomever you pray |
| Perhaps "love of your life so far" or "one of theloves | | | | to. Letgo of them and any anger the best you can. |
| of your life" are much more appropriate sinceyou | | | | Forgiveness will heal you and help you move on. |
| haven't lived your entire life and met all thepotential | | | | Every relationship is different and even thoughgrieving |
| love interests yet. This way of thinking doesnot diminish | | | | for a lost love isn't easy, know that theremay be a |
| what you had with past loves since everyrelationship is | | | | future lover waiting in the wings for arelationship that is |
| different, and you may have a lot tolook forward to no | | | | even better than you have everimagined. But dwelling |
| matter what your age. | | | | on "what could have been"or your loss will not help to |
| Is a lost love destined? Is feeling a deep sense of | | | | usher in a happierfuture. |
| lossa natural part of personal fate? We believe so, | | | | Also know that, based on past life regressionresearch, |
| sincethe comprehensive astrology and numerology | | | | you have likely loved hundreds of timesor more in |
| chartsclearly indicate unions and separations, among | | | | hundreds, if not thousands (or manymore) of past lives. |
| othercircumstances. Most experience the loss of love | | | | It's also possible that you willbe with that person in a |
| at onetime or another. It may be someone they didn't | | | | future life, in one way oranother, when the timing is |
| knowthat well, someone with whom they were | | | | better for both of you. |
| involvedfor years, or even someone they are still | | | | In the mean time, let go of this person the best youcan. |
| involved withbut the spark has died for one or both. | | | | This will not release the memory of them fromyour life |
| From a spiritual perspective, feeling a sense of | | | | or the possibility of being together again,but remove |
| lossserves any number of purposes, including, but | | | | them as a potential block in yourcurrent love life. |
| notlimited to the following: it allows you to | | | | |