| I've experienced jealousy in romantic relationships and | | | | you're actually feeling: are you jealous or are you |
| also in friendships; who hasn't? It's never fun and it's | | | | angry about something? Is this just a little twinge or are |
| always attached to a lot of drama, which is very much | | | | you afraid of losing the relationship? Once you identify |
| "old energy." Jealousy is a fear-based emotion that | | | | what you're feeling and what you're afraid of... |
| we've all had to deal with from time to time, but if we | | | | 2) Pinpoint exactly what's making you feel this way. Is |
| find it popping up in our lives over and over again, the | | | | it a gut feeling, did you see something that made you |
| universe is sending us a message. By continually | | | | jealous, or did someone say something to you that |
| drawing jealousy into our lives, we are attracting similar | | | | sparked this feeling? Why is what you heard or saw |
| conditions so that we learn and grow. | | | | affecting you this way? Try to figure out what's at the |
| That's why it's so important to examine our lives and | | | | core of your jealousy/fear. |
| look for patterns and connect the dots from the past | | | | 3) Look for patterns to see if this kind of thing has |
| to the present. When we find ourselves living a life | | | | happened to you before, and if so, how often. If it has |
| script, that's an indicator that there is a lesson we want | | | | happened before in this, or in other relationships, then |
| to learn, but we haven't quite gotten it right yet. Let me | | | | it's time to look at the way you've handled similar |
| explain what I mean: Let's say that you repeatedly find | | | | situations in the past and determine what you could |
| yourself feeling jealous-maybe in your present | | | | have done differently. When it comes to windows of |
| relationship, or it's happened in most or all of your | | | | opportunity, once you handle it properly and learn the |
| relationships. When a similar situation happens to you | | | | lesson, you don't have to deal with it again. You move |
| over and over again, you're living what we call a life | | | | on to other lessons and continue to learn and grow. So |
| script, where you're repeatedly drawing the same type | | | | if the same situation keeps happening, that's a sure |
| of situation to yourself. We do this because there is a | | | | sign that you need to change your behavior or the |
| life lesson or Karmic debt that we very much want to | | | | way you've dealt with similar situations in the past. |
| deal with properly, and up to this point, we haven't quite | | | | 4) Sit down with the person who is contributing to the |
| gotten it right. When we finally learn the lesson, we'll | | | | jealousy and fear. Communicate your feelings in an |
| stop co-creating this particular type of situation | | | | honest, clear, and concise manner, without yelling and |
| [Window of Opportunity] or person [Relationship Villain] | | | | screaming or pointing fingers. Listen with an open mind |
| into our lives. | | | | and an open heart to what he/she has to say. |
| Using myself as an example, the men in my life came | | | | 5) Determine if the situation can be resolved, or if it's |
| in all shapes and sizes, but they all had one thing in | | | | better to end the relationship. |
| common-they were all control freaks and they loved | | | | Allowing jealousy to remain in our lives is giving into |
| telling me what to do-even to the point of what | | | | fear. And when we give into fear, we give away our |
| makeup to use and what to eat for lunch. I was | | | | power. If we allow someone to make us jealous, we |
| continually attracting that type of man to myself | | | | are, in essence, giving them power and control over us. |
| because I was determined to learn to stop giving | | | | If we continue to make other's feel jealous, we are |
| away my power. It took me 40 years to learn that | | | | trying to steal their power. So ask yourself and be |
| lesson! | | | | honest with yourself, how often has jealousy reared its |
| If you experience jealousy over and over again, the | | | | ugly head in your life? Is it a life script for you? If you're |
| odds are good that you haven't dealt with it properly in | | | | not sure, ask your family and friends-they'll tell you! If it |
| the past, and if you want to stop dealing with jealousy | | | | is a life script, then try a different approach than you've |
| issues in the future, the time is now to examine how | | | | used in the past. |
| you've handled such things in the past, and make | | | | Let me leave you with a little something that my Guide |
| some changes. | | | | Group likes to say about windows of opportunity: "It's |
| Understanding that jealousy is a FEAR-based emotion | | | | better to learn the lesson on the ground floor rather |
| is an important first step. Jealousy is the fear of losing | | | | than in the penthouse." That's because we have |
| a relationship that's important to us (romantic and | | | | multiple windows built into our lives to learn a particular |
| non-romantic), and it's NEVER a good idea to let fear | | | | lesson. They start out gently, and become harder and |
| rule our lives. It's a much better idea to face that fear | | | | more filled with drama as you miss one window and |
| head on so that we can move on with our lives and | | | | go on to the next. Why? Because there's a lesson |
| continue to learn and grow. Here are some guidelines | | | | here that we really, really, want to learn in this lifetime; |
| to help you deal with jealousy and walk through that | | | | and by waking up and spotting a life script early on, |
| window of opportunity for spiritual growth: | | | | we'll save ourselves, and others, a lot of drama and |
| 1) First of all, allow yourself to feel whatever it is that | | | | pain, as we expedite our spiritual growth. |
| you're feeling; and then figure out exactly what it is | | | | |