Does Spiritualism Really Bother the Dead?

I am a natural clairvoyant medium although I haveI work professionally as a medium now and recently
never been a religious person, only attending church forhad a client who was obviously tense when she
the usual family functions, e.g. weddings, christeningsarrived. It took a while for her to unwind and tell me her
and funerals. To me the church had a somewhat staidreasons for being agitated. She said that whilst
feeling about it and I was fortunate enough to havediscussing her forthcoming visit to me, a friend had told
parents that did not insist that I belong to oneher that she should 'Leave the dead alone and stop
denomination or another. My father was a Catholic butbothering them, let them be dead.' This of course had
he was also a free thinker and allowed me to developraised many questions in her mind as to the ethics of
my own ideas.mediumship and indeed her personal desires and what
Mediumship was a faculty that was present within myshould or should not be achievable when having a
family and involved my grandmother, and all her threesitting for Spirit.
daughters. Therefore we did not tend to make aI advised her that my belief is this, during my younger
secret of it nor a big deal, it just happened that ouryears, listening to my family and having my own
dead returned to contact us and we could passexperiences of Spirit I knew that the dead were very
messages on to the grieving relatives of others if andforthcoming if they wanted to make contact. This was
when the situation arose.not a case of chanting ritualistic songs, casting spells or
My initial encounter with Spiritualism came as aeven using the (talking) Ouija board, it was simply a
process of personal enlightenment really, I was seekingperson wanting to make it known that their Spirit
something that filled a void within me, something thatcontinued to exist past their physical death.
could give me a sense of belonging yet withoutThere is a belief within Occultism - which although
demanding that I praise God, Jesus, Buddha or thevastly different from Spiritualism has been frequently
Immaculate Lady or any number of other idols fromcompared because of its 'use' of Spirits through rituals
religious persuasions at regular intervals.and magic - that a deceased person should be left to
After attending several services I joined a Spiritualisttheir own device to make that ultimate transition from
church and was surprised not to be given a bible orthis existence to the next, unhindered by grieving
expected to absolve my 'sins'. I was told 'Just treatrelatives that are hanging on to the comfort blanket of
others as you would be treated yourself and accepta message from their dead. Whilst I am open to many
the responsibility for that which you do to others, dotheories and ideas within Occultism, this one does not
not expect to be 'forgiven' for your sins. If you carrysit well with me and the reason is this. If mediumship is
out something which is unkind, hurtful or downrighta natural facility to a person and they are initially
harmful then accept the Personal Responsibility ofunaware of what process is actually taking place and
what you have done.'not consciously requesting contact from the dead, it is
This was very welcome to me as I had alwayssurely then the deceased person with whom the onus
essentially felt that a person should be responsible foris resting.
their wrong doings, that it was not for Jesus to forgiveI think in short, when we die we shed this body our
us so that we could carry on doing rotten things until'overcoat' if you will, for our time here on earth. We
the next time our conscious got the better of us.are then still Personally Responsible for our actions,
But of course the crux of Spiritualism is the belief thatthoughts and deeds and if we choose to want to be a
we continue to 'live' after our earthly body dies and aspart of the life of our loved ones, friends or relatives
a Spiritualist and life-long natural medium I do not feelbeyond our physical death then it is our choice to do
that when the dead freely make themselves known toso. It is simply one Spirit contacting another.
us it can be considered as being 'bothersome' to them.