| Spirituality coaching is more than creating goals and | | | | Each person is exactly where he or she needs to be |
| holding someone accountable. Spirituality coaching | | | | in the evolution of his or her consciousness right now. |
| takes into account the whole person, that is, mind, body | | | | Each person has all the answers inside himself or |
| and spirit. Spirituality coaching focuses on one's | | | | herself. Everyone comes to find right action, right |
| essential well being that can only be accessed from | | | | knowing and right understanding from within. My choice |
| one's Inner Core, one's essence. The aim of spirituality | | | | is to serve and support others to look inside to |
| coaching is true and lasting transformation, and a true | | | | discover what they need to know. Whenever a client |
| congruence between one's inter behavior and outer | | | | is in an "I don't know" situation, rather than tell or |
| behavior, allowing one to show up in integrity and | | | | suggest, I ask: (1) "Is it OK not to know?" (2) "How |
| authentically. The following nine spiritual guidelines can | | | | does it feel not to know?" or (3) "What if you did |
| serve as a foundation for spirituality coaching. | | | | know?" I have no wanting or needing to fix, make the |
| 1. I AM A CELL IN THE BODY OF HUMANITY. Like | | | | "right" suggestion, have an answer, and be the |
| the acres of sage in a desert that are connected by a | | | | coach-turned-consultant. For me, this is acting with |
| single root, I know that I have a connection with, and an | | | | honesty, sincerity and responsibility to myself and |
| impact on, on every other cell in this body called | | | | another to just be the space and be present, in the |
| Humanity. I know my thoughts, words and actions | | | | Now, and allow whatever arises in the other to arise, |
| affect all the cells in this body. I am aware my | | | | knowing that their "answer" or "solution" or next step" |
| thoughts, words, and actions are either "healing" or | | | | will naturally emerge. |
| "killing" these other cells. I operate on the belief that all | | | | "Is it OK to be where I am right now?" helps me |
| of life is relationship, and that how I treat one person is | | | | discover and explore if my need for "control" forces |
| reflected out to every individual on the planet in some | | | | me to gravitate away from my true and real self. |
| way, shape or form. I know the planetary impact of | | | | 6. EVERY CIRCUMSTANCE OF MY LIFE IS AN |
| my thoughts as I know a butterfly flapping its wings in | | | | INTERACTION OF SPIRIT WITH MY SOUL. I know |
| Japan can cause a hurricane in the Gulf of Mexico. | | | | there is no such thing as luck, circumstance or |
| "How are my thoughts healing or killing someone right | | | | coincidence. Every thing happens for a reason. I am |
| here, right now?" guides and makes me consciously | | | | consistently receiving lessons and teachings. |
| aware of my spiritual responsibility in every one of my | | | | "I'm curious about this," encourages my continued |
| day-to-day interactions. | | | | practice of inquiry and reflection to delve more deeply |
| 2. I EXPERIENCE ALL OF LIFE AS DIVINE. I respect | | | | into conscious awareness and understanding of my |
| the humanity of each person I know and meet; I am | | | | self as I continue on my journey as a coach and Earth |
| aware that everyone possesses a spark of divinity. I | | | | Human. |
| make warm and embracing eye contact and refer to | | | | 7. CIRCUMSTANCES HAPPEN "FOR" US, NOT "TO" |
| each individual by name when referring to him or her | | | | US. I remove my self from a "victim consciousness" |
| directly and indirectly. I first choose to relate to each | | | | and "martyrdom" perspective. Blame, jealousy, |
| person as divine, and only then do I relate to them in | | | | defensiveness, and resentment are not a part of the |
| their "role" as a client, a neighbor, a direct report, a | | | | fabric of who I am. I am grateful and appreciative of |
| manager, a leader, a clerk, a wife, a child, an athlete, a | | | | every circumstance, event and person that I meet on |
| coach, a clerk, a repair person, etc. I refrain from | | | | my path. |
| referring to individuals as "my client", "my 2:00, "the guy | | | | "So, what's the learning here?" guides my responses to |
| who", etc. | | | | life and enhances my personal and professional |
| "Am I seeing this person with the eyes of Spirit; am I | | | | growth and development. |
| speaking with the voice of Spirit; am I listening with the | | | | 8. GREET EVERYONE WITH A WARM SMILE. A |
| ears or Spirit?" guides me to consciously connect with | | | | smile of greeting is a gift of appreciation. There are no |
| another's divine humanity. | | | | "little people", anywhere, who I can ignore or be |
| 3. I MANIFEST AUTHENTICITY THROUGH | | | | insensitive toward. |
| HONESTY, SINCERITY AND RESPONSIBILITY. I am | | | | "What seems to be separating me from you?" |
| first responsible for "walking the talk," and so I | | | | reminds me that I am in alignment with everyone with |
| consciously monitor my own behaviors and | | | | whom I come into contact. |
| performance and refrain from judging another's | | | | 9. SPIRITUALITY IS A LOT LIKE BEING PREGNANT. |
| motives, intentions or behaviors. | | | | Either I am or I'm not. I can't be "a little bit" pregnant, nor |
| "Am I 'being' and 'doing' honestly, sincerely and | | | | can I be "a little bit" spiritual. If I'm not coming from a |
| responsibly right here, right now in my relationship with | | | | place of spirituality, i.e., my Essential Self, what's getting |
| myself and with others?" guides me to be consciously | | | | in the way? Ego? Limiting thoughts and beliefs? |
| conscious of living from a place of integrity and | | | | Sabotaging self-images or self-concepts? Regret |
| authenticity. | | | | because I'm living in the past, or fear, anxiety and |
| 4. THE PRACTICE OF PRESENCE ALLOWS THE | | | | worry about the future? |
| SPACE FOR EVERYONE TO BE HIMSELF OR | | | | "What will it take for me to come from my essence |
| HERSELF. Presence allows me to be in my body, | | | | and align my outer behavior and inner behavior as |
| inside rather than in my mind, to be in the moment, in | | | | one?" reminds me to let go of my ego and "little self" |
| the Now. In presence, I am not in the past or future. I | | | | as I continue my journey toward transformation. |
| am not judging, evaluating or being "mental". I am still | | | | So, spirituality in coaching and being coached is not a |
| and focused. In every interaction, I set my intention to | | | | matter of convenience. One needs to be aware of |
| quiet my mind and open my heart through the action | | | | the discrepancy between genuine spirituality (which |
| of presence. I serve as the space in which coaching | | | | comes from Essence and divinity) and counterfeit |
| happens. "Out beyond the ideas of rightdoing and | | | | spirituality (which is an "ego ideal" of what it means of |
| wrongdoing, there is a field; I'll meet you there." (Rumi) | | | | be spiritual) that one puts on like a robe when meeting |
| "Is it OK to allow whatever arises in this space, in this | | | | with a person being coached, or in fact, with anyone. |
| moment?" allows me to "go inside" to find inner | | | | These spiritual guidelines for coaching serve to inform |
| wisdom, inner knowing and understanding, and insights | | | | one's coaching practice and one's life. When individuals |
| into my BE-ings and DO-ings in every relationship and | | | | make an honest and sincere effort to allow these |
| interaction. | | | | spiritual guidelines for coaching to be the beacon that |
| 5. EVERYONE IS EXACTLY WHERE THEY | | | | drives the direction of their practice, they and their |
| SHOULD BE AT THIS TIME, IN THIS PLACE, ON THE | | | | clients most often experience greater inner peace, |
| PLANET. It is not my job, role or responsibility to "fix", | | | | harmony, balance and well-being at work, at home and |
| "change" or tell anyone "what's best for her or him." | | | | at play. |