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Article #253: Has Discipline Become a Dirty Word

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Discipline (dis' e-plin) adj 1. Training moral obligation to approach that role
expected to produce a specific character seriously. They must assess each child,
or pattern of behavior, esp. training identify his or her spirit and special
that produces moral or mental qualities and parent that child
improvement. appropriately. By listening and
When did discipline become a bad word? observing, parents can tune into the
According to the dictionary definition special-ness of their child and
discipline is something that parents discipline effectively. The parent can
should embrace. fine tune their discipline to make it as
There is certainly nothing in the helpful to the child as possible. Good
definition of discipline that suggests parents help children identify and
spanking, shaming, yelling, screaming or celebrate their own inner magic.
debasing a child's character. By embracing the true definition of
So why are parents afraid of disciplining discipline parents can enthusiastically
their children? use their own skills as teachers and
Children need and want to be reigned in. trainers and instill the morals and
It is frightening for children to lose behaviors that are meaningful and
control, to hit, to scream, to throw the important to them. The true
items out of the grocery basket, to act disciplinarian therefore is a child's
out in school. Children want their greatest role model.
parents to set limits. With their out of Parents should start early to shape their
control behavior they beg their parents children. Create a supportive, loving,
to teach them how to handle situations gentle, supportive, non-aggressive and
that frustrate and anger them. As one calm household. Make teaching moments out
five year old so eloquently puts it, of the times when children act out and
"When I am yelling and mad, I feel highlight the many moments when they
yucky…I want mommy and daddy to make it sparkle and amaze. These disciplining
go away." moments help to reinforce the positive
Is it shaming to point out and correct a behavior that children need to function
child's bad behavior? On the contrary, it in the adult world and have the
is shaming to be thirty years old and not confidence to dream big and succeed.
understand how to behave at work, how to Embrace the role of disciplinarian. There
set, maintain and respect boundaries, or are many appropriate and effective ways
how to interact in social settings. to discipline children and parents need
It has become unfashionable to discipline not feel that there is a stigma attached
children. Parents cringe at the idea of to valuing discipline.
being a child's disciplinarian and not Elena Neitlich is the owner and CEO of
the child's best friend. Parents do not Moms on Edge, LLC. Her company designs,
want to be the bad guys always harping on manufactures and sells children's
their kid's wrong doings. However, nobody behavioral products. Elena created her
said parenting is easy. The parents have company with the mission to promote
the ultimate obligation to shape their peace, quiet and good behavior and to
kids to fit within societal norms. alleviate the stress that parents can
By no means does this shaping mean feel as they guide their children through
creating little robots and robbing the tough stages of childhood.
children of their uniqueness. Good A true "mompreneur", Elena is the mother
parenting and good disciplining does of Noah (5) and Seth (2) and is committed
quite the opposite. Good parents have a to raising really great people.






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